Real or not?

Have you ever noticed that other people love differently? I mean have you found that one person may seem to love unconditionally, deeply and eternally and another is just as happy with a spouse or boyfriend and they only seem to love at a more surface level?

My soon to be ex husband is madly in love with a married woman that I really like. She's hip. pretty and a lot of fun. It's just that he has been "in love" with this woman for a few weeks and just learned her last name a week ago.... Is it possible to love someone that you don't even know? He doesn't know her favorites, her hang-ups. her habits, her talents or even her last name and he's "in love" with her???

I know.. it's not my place to judge or guess.. it's just that he and I are still very close friends and he shares all the details of their relationship with me. I can't help but compare their budding relationship to what I have and have had. The reason he and I are getting divorced is because he was never IN LOVE with me. I lived a miserable, lonely existence, always knowing that I was not the one for him. It was extremely painful. Now I am just wondering if this man doesn't yet know what REAL love is....? It seems he jumps and forces feelings before they are even there. Again, I KNOW - Who am I to judge? Maybe this is the love of his life that he has found! I just am having a hard time believing that this could be the real thing.

I have always taken more time in developing my feelings and my relationships. I have had many fizzle because we just weren't compatible or the feelings just weren't there. I don't give my heart easily, but once I do it's DEEP and it's emotionally charged - straight from the heart and soul.

I guess I have to go back to not judging others' relationships. What makes them happy is what is important. If this is what works for them, it's good. Right? I'm just kind of glad that I have found a deep love with a fantastic man!!! :)